Okay,
Here is the scenario….
Woman had a rough week at work.
Just got out of another unsuccessful relationship a little while back….
Its been like 6 months ago so the “itch” is in full effect…..
She.Needs.SOME……..
Its Friday evening and she cannot wait to leave the office and get home to get changed because she is meeting some of her girlfriends to have a few drinks and appetizers at a nice little spot where the music is good, the atmosphere is nice…everything is lovely…There are a plethora of available men there and most of them are there to network and maybe meet something fine to see hopefully outside this venue…
Now from across the room there is some random guy at the bar and notices said woman.
He tells himself ( and he isn’t sure if its the Belvedere and cranberry or what) “Damn that honey in the white linen is looking real good to me right about now, I need to be ON THAT!!”
…so he decides to finish his drink and mosey on over to introduce himself with the hopes that it will be all good….
He makes it to her table and does the normal of excusing himself for intruding, but he had to come say hello and introduce himself to this fine young thang. They make small talk amongst themselves for a few minutes and lets her know that the next round of drinks for her and her two girls are on him. He slips her a business card and goes back to the bar to have the drinks sent over….
Now……..
…During some random conversation I was having I was told that a woman can tell if a man is good in bed by certain body language and things that he does….such as the way he walks, the way he talks, the way he carries himself, hell even the way he drives his car..?!?!?
Yes, you read correctly, Drives.His.Car…LoL
I had to imagine that in a way it could be true I guess…maybe he leans back just the right way and a female can get a visual of herself mounted ontop of him….or the way he looks when he is focusing on finding a certain address to a new place…thats how he would focus when he is waxing that from the back….or maybe its the way he holds the steering wheel when he is driving that lets her know how he would grip and hold on to her during some intense lovemaking or just plain ole fuckin’ up the headboards type shit….*shrug*…I guess its possible…
I found that to be very interesting and thought I would pose the question to you all cause I had never heard of that one….Of course we all know that when and if the sex is going to happen its usually up to the female and she can tell within a few minutes of talking to him if she is gonna give up the goodies…its just a fact of life, but I had no idea a woman could tell how good the sex would be just by the way a nigga walks and shit, or the way he drives his car…*smh*
So you all tell me just how true this is and if all women think that way cause I really would like to know
In a minute….
That’s some bullshit!! A brotha can have it going on in all of the areas that you’ve mentioned, from his walk, to his talk, to the way he dresses, etc., but he still may not be able to put it down (like he thinks he can) in bed. He’s a movie preview.
In other words, you’ve seen previews for movies, right? They can get you fired up about seeing a movie. Have you saying to yourself, “This movie is going to be off the chain!!” But then when the movie actually comes out and you get a chance to view it for self…….it falls flat. So don’t let the previews fool you.
Comment by Nikki — August 18, 2005 @ 8:26 am
lol! I gotta co sign with Nikki’s response. I have never heard such a thing of knowing how a guy is in bed by the way he drives. I’ve heard the walk but like Nikki says appearances are sometimes deceiving.
Comment by Edwige — August 18, 2005 @ 8:31 am
I third those comments…nope, doesn’t say a thing, you can practice your walk and talk, but when you are in the mix…well…there’s no telling, and, with different women, men react differently so past performance is not an indicator of future satisfaction…lol
Comment by sun — August 18, 2005 @ 9:07 am
As for the way a man drives his car…. interesting you should mention this… because it reminds me of a guy I dated once…
While I agree with Nikki that driving, dancing, none of those things are an indication of a man’s skills in bed… I can understand them being attractive qualities that make a woman THINK that the sex could be great.
Let’s take dancing. It requires control, rhythm, and an ability to move. A man who can dance is automatically sexy… at least as long as he’s dancing. LOL
Driving? I can understand that too. Like I said the driving thing brought to mind a guy I dated once.
I was attracted to him, he was an attorney, smart, established, sweet, thoughtful… and THEN we went out to dinner and HE drove. *shaking head*
I swear that was our last date. LOL
He drove 54.5 miles per hour, in the right lane… and EVERYONE was passing us on the highway. He let 1090809808 people merge in front of us and I felt like we’d NEVER get where we were headed. By the time we did. I was turned OFF. LOL Sounds silly… but… again, driving, like dancing… and sex… takes control, rhythm, the ability to maneuver, and if a man drives like he is in control, knows where he’s going, and can maneuver through traffic with ease… I can see that being a bit of a turn-on to a woman. I can also see a man driving like he’s afraid, doesn’t know where he’s going, and is out of control could be a turn-off. You apply those qualities to other areas and they’re NOT attractive. LOL
And that’s what I think it boils down to. I don tthink that driving, dancing, etc. are a clear indication of what a man will be like in bed… but if you apply the principles of having the ability to move and maneuver rhythmically, with confidence and control, like you know exactly what you’re doing… then I think it’s not too far to go to think that they would be great in bed.
Was that long enough?
Comment by Xquizzyt1 — August 18, 2005 @ 9:16 am
Go head on X!!! LoL
That the best breakdown I have read yet…:o)
Comment by dakelzz — August 18, 2005 @ 9:21 am
I was going to comment but then I read X’s comment and she pretty much killed it. So on point.
Comment by kiesha — August 18, 2005 @ 9:48 am
I echo X’s comment. And I also agree with Nikki, to a certain extent … there are some exceptions to the rule. But you can indeed have some sort of indication if you pay attention to his ‘movement’ whether he’s behind the steering wheel or he’s handling his business on the court and schooling dudes. The appeal is a combination of physical actions … not just one.
Comment by Systa Soul — August 18, 2005 @ 9:56 am
Really, that whole concept of determining how a man is in bed by the way he moves on the dancefloor, drives, etc. is about as bad as determining how big his soul pole is by looking at his hands and feet. That theory doesn’t hold true for every man. I know some short brothas with small hands and feet, but have a 3rd leg that would put some anacondas to shame. But you ain’t heard that from me.
Comment by Nikki — August 18, 2005 @ 10:06 am
A myth… plain and simple. The only way you can tell if a man is good in bed is to sleep with him. I’ve heard people say women can tell in the first five minutes if they are going to sleep with a man. Not this woman. I need to know some things that I can’t garner in the first five weeks, never mind the first five minutes. Good post!
Comment by Meka — August 18, 2005 @ 10:09 am
What’s the point of me saying anything? X handled it well. LOL I can only echo her and Nikki: It is a bunch of bullshit. Don’t believe the hype of a female who would say some shit like that.
Comment by Yolanda — August 18, 2005 @ 12:02 pm
From my experience (personal & hear say), I believe it all to be a myth.
Comment by Schatzi — August 18, 2005 @ 12:33 pm
i nver heard that driving car shit. i live in ny. most men dont dive cars. and who cares how they drive their cars unless women are built like damn ford trucks… thats that bullshit lol
anyway, hi kelvin! long time… u coming to ny?
Comment by danja — August 18, 2005 @ 4:25 pm
Love the comments! I think that driving and dancing can help a woman decide that a man is SEXY….but I agree that it has nan to do with what he does when he gets naked…. Nothing at all….sigh…
Comment by Keish — August 18, 2005 @ 7:16 pm
i gotta come back to this one…..
Comment by muffin — August 19, 2005 @ 3:29 pm
Well, if a man won’t ask for directions when he’s lost behind the wheel, he may not ask for “directions” to see whether or not I’m pleased w/ what he’s doing in bed….
Comment by Beloved — August 23, 2005 @ 7:17 am
See this right here is ridiculous. August 19th? Dude!! We’re almost into September!
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